Safety Is Job One

By Guest Blogger: Nurse Nancy Beck

“I don’t want expensive gifts; I don’t want to be bought. I have everything I want. I just want someone to be there for me, to make me feel safe and secure.”– Princess Diana

Not many of us get to feel the safety of living in a guarded palace. What could be safer than living with a hundred guards at your disposal? Even with the guards or money for them, it does not guarantee that you will feel safe. This is indicated by the above quote by Princess Diana.

Living in fear, whether real or imaginary, can introduce incredible stress in one’s life and affect every aspect of it. As an adult you can change your surroundings and environment. You can change job, move or seek out therapy to resolve issues with fear and insecurity. I mean really think about it. We live in a country that allows us to change almost every aspect of our life no matter who we are or how much money we have, if we choose to do it.

Our children on the other hand, do not have it so lucky. Our children live in our world and revolve around what we as parents do and say. They are completely reliant on us for their perception of how to feel safe and secure. We, as parents are responsible for a lot of our children’s fear and anxiety. How’s that for a big responsibility?

If you’re a believer in positive parenting, this big responsibility has an easy solution with just a little parenting advice. I found my parenting advice in a class called “Conscious Discipline” by Dr Becky A. Bailey. It was being taught at the local adult education center. In a nutshell I learned was that it is the parent’s job to keep their children safe or to be more exact, it is our job to make our children understand that it is our job to keep them safe and that is a key, or should I say incredible parenting tip.

The beauty of this parenting job description is that I can allow my children to grow and explore their environment. I can be their friend and companion yet, when the time is necessary, set boundaries and limitations to keep them safe. My children respect and feel safe that these boundaries’s are in place for their protection instead of thinking I am just stopping them from having fun. We get compliance and support from our children instead of rebellion. This leads to a lot less stress and anxiety for both children and parents alike.

In addition, I have developed special Pillow Talks to give to my children at night to solidify the family connection of love and protection. Taking on my new job duties and mixing them with Pillow Talks has worked wonderfully for my family and I share this so you can experience it too.

It is important that we have our children in a safe environment. It is probably the second most important thing that we can offer our children, with the first being love. Taking the parenting class on “Conscious Discipline” helped my family understand what it means to keep our children feeling safe, including setting consistent boundaries and limitations. If our children live in fear or anxiety, they cannot function at their highest ability. If our children feel safe and secure, they can achieve anything.

Learn more ways to reduce child stress, child fear, child worries or just gain a few parenting tips to encourage and guide your kids by visiting me at http://www.NurseNancyBeck.com.  Find my book “Pillow Talk: Loving Affirmations to Encourage and Guide your Children” on my website or on Amazon.com. Please leave comments, ask questions or write subject idea’s for future articles.

Blessings of happiness,

Nurse Nancy Beck