Top 5 Reasons Men Cheat

Many of my callers both on my radio show and on my relationship advice line have wanted to know why men cheat. Tiger Woods, former presidential candidate John Edwards and Kobe Bryant are but a few of the high profile men who have cheated. But you don’t have to be rich and famous to have this problem. It has nothing to do with money. In fact, the simple truth is that many men cheat because of the adventure it creates from an otherwise boring or routine life.

Recently, while having lunch with a dear friend of mine the topic of “Why men cheat” came up in our conversation. He is a private detective and told me that 90% of his clients today are spouses who are suspicious of a mate that is cheating. I was shocked when he told me that if a spouse is truly suspicious in their heart of hearts that the other is cheating, they are usually 95% correct. He has investigated thousands of cases over the past 25 years. So I began an investigation of my own and looked into the top 5 reasons your hubby or significant other might be on the prowl.

Here are the “Top 5 Reasons Men Cheat”:

1. She ain’t what she used to be.
Like Adam, the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. So many times men who I speak to have said to me:

“She got lazy or She gained weight or She just doesn’t take care of herself anymore.” I have found that this is the point in which many men begin looking around and “window shopping” so to speak.

Women who want to keep their men on a short leash need to take a good, hard look in the mirror for sure.  But it’s a two way street. Because,  men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still be demanding perfection from her. It’s the typical double standard our culture has come to accept and I personally believe that it’s time to change.  I also believe that guys should also make an effort to rediscover the spark at home.
Women need to feel pretty, even if when they might not feel their best. Support them and help them emotionally with their needs. It’s not all about YOU – the man.  What does it hurt to remind her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate everything she does? Even the little things that you don’t thing really matter. Mention them. It will make her feel sexy and she’ll want to make you happy.

2. It’s the thrill.
Most guys who have affairs are getting in touch with their inner caveman: They like to play with fire.  It adds a level of danger and danger adds to the excitement and adventure of it all. By keeping your other half filled with surprise and sizzle in your sex life, a woman can keep the home fires burning so hot that her man won’t have any reason to cheat. The problem here is that it take effort and work. That’s where most fail. They simply get lazy.
Sometimes, men also cheat because of fear, loneliness or even out of anger. Many times the betraying partner’s failure to deal with these feelings is what causes him to be unfaithful in the end.

3. It’s just sex.
For most guys, sex and love are two entirely different things.
Men really believe, “I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women.” They separate it in their brains. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard callers say this. That rationale allows guys to cheat guilt-free, with one notable exception:
Any guilt that a man has after sex isn’t about the sex itself, it’s about the consequences.

The cheating male will wonder “Will she be a stalker? Will my wife find out?” The truth is that If a guy is in a committed, monogamous relationship, he should ask himself one question before he cheats: Is it worth it? He should consider the worst-case scenario, meaning that his wife finds out and is now brokenhearted. Is it worth it?”

4. Biology, It’s in my DNA
It’s our biological nature to be with as many females as possible. Males believe they are designed and built to procreate. Or are they?

However, here’s the tricky part. Once guys have seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. It doesn’t matter if you’re Jessica Alba or Sienna Miller, men become accustomed to your body and want to experience something different – different lips, different body types. Men are only monogamous because they realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid. But Juliet Williams, associate professor of women’s studies at UCLA disagrees. “No matter how stunningly high the number of male cheaters, we know it’s not biological,” she says. “There are still a higher percentage of men who are monogamous.” Whether it’s evolution, biology or simple novelty, infidelity researchers agree that men do seek different sex partners. However, the decision whether to cheat is entirely in a man’s control.
“Most men don’t act on those desires because they don’t want to jeopardize social reputations or marriages,”.

5. Because they can.
Ok, they are guys, remember? It’s hard to resist temptation, especially when it’s at our fingertips. Thanks to the Internet, it’s easier for men to cheat anytime, anywhere… while they’re watching TV or on the laptop in bed next to their sleeping wives and even on their smart phones. Smart phones and applications like “Loopt”, “Facebook” and “Twitter” have become meccas for high tech cheaters to find a new adventure. Anytime, anywhere twenty four hours a day, seven days a week.

So what can you do?

It’s thought that about 65% of men cheat on their partners – and 70% of wives don’t have a clue.

Here are 10 questions to ask yourself, If you answer “YES” to three or more of these questions, you might have reason for serious concern:

1. Are there phone numbers you don’t recognize on his cell phone or credit card charges from restaurants you’ve never been to?

2. Has your partner suddenly become interested in getting into shape?

3. Has your partner suddenly started wearing newer, hipper clothes?

4. Is your partner working later at the office – and asked you not to drop by?

5. Does your partner travel frequently on business – and dissuade you from tagging along?

6. On weekends, would your partner rather watch the game with the guys than spend time with you?

7. Does your partner seem uninterested in sex or even with cuddling or holding hands?

8. Does your partner quickly hide his email when you come into the room?

9. Does you partner seem bored or dissatisfied with your life together lately?

10. Does your partner pick fights or complain that you’re nagging him?

Are you suspicious that your partner might be fooling around?  If so, give me a call and I can help you do the right thing.

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