Top 5 Ways To Combat Loneliness

We all are force to combat loneliness at some point in our lives. It’s just human nature. The truth about dealing with loneliness is that it can be a very delicate balancing act. Sometimes you have to sit at home and face it, but sometimes you have to go out and try to meet people. It’s takes effort on your part and that’s where most people have a problem with combating loneliness.

I get a lot of email asking me what can a person do to help rid themselves of loneliness and feel more integrated into our world. What they are really searching for is how to rid themselves of the isolation they feel in their lives. It’s a growing problem in our world. Especially since the advent of the internet. Now people hardly have to leave their homes. We can do our banking online. Pay our bills online. Order food online. Have relationships online. Visit with our family and friends around the globe online, all without even having to leave the house.

So loneliness is a growing problem. People are becoming more and more isolated from real face to face human interaction. In a new growing trend, more and more people are even working from home. Companies are finding that it raises productivity, lowers costs and technology had created a culture accepting of less human interaction. I’m not so sure this is good for us as a people. People need people.

So what can we do in our growing effort of combating loneliness?

I have identified five top strategies to conquering loneliness:

1. First, define the problem. E.g., only when you correctly define your problem will you be able to sort it out conquer your loneliness.

2. Seek help. Call the local crisis hotline and just talk. It’s amazing how talking (even though you’re not given any answers) can help you straighten out tough issues. And if you can manage to get therapy for free or a low price you would be foolish not to try that too. There’s no shame in seeing a therapist. Visit our resources page for more information – Click Here.

3. If you have a friend or relative you trust, confide in them about your loneliness. (Don’t dump your loneliness on anyone you don’t feel very close to, of course.) Hiding important feelings from loved ones can cause painful misunderstandings and aggravate your loneliness.

4. Just sit on the couch, sometimes, and let yourself completely feel the loneliness. A little self-pity is a good thing because it motivates you to change your thinking and your life and, eventually, solve the problem.

If you don’t sit down and face your loneliness once in a while you will find yourself trying to make yourself feel better with addictions. Drugs, alcohol, joyless sex, very risky sports, food, even sleep, can be used to keep your mind off your loneliness (or off any problem, for that matter). The trouble is, addictions only give temporary relief; you need more and more kicks as time goes on. Eventually, addictions either lose their effectiveness, kill you, or both.

5. Analyze the loneliness to death. Exactly what emotions make up your loneliness? Attack each feeling individually:

a. Anger that you have been rejected or deserted or fired? Do some screaming or hit a punching bag. A surprisingly effective way to diffuse anger is to draw a big picture of some mean person and then scribble all over it with a red magic marker and, finally, rip it up.

b. Sadness. Sadness is basically feeling sorry for yourself, a feeling everybody deserves a little of. Let yourself wallow in self-pity for five minutes a day. Then tell yourself, “Deal with it,” and go on with your life.

c. Fear — the most painful emotion. For fear you need to bring out the heavy artillery. First, admit that you’re afraid. Don’t be embarrassed; you only have to admit it to yourself. Are you afraid you’re lonely because you’re an undesirable person? Because you went through such an awful trauma that you can never risk love again?

Now that you have admitted your fears, take another look at them and you will realize that they are all ungrounded fears. Not one of the above fears, and no fear that puts you down, could be the cause of your loneliness.

You are a good person or you wouldn’t be reading this article.

Ditch those fears!

If you still feel like you just need someone to talk too, please pick up the phone and call me. I would love to talk with you. I can bring you clarification in any area that is affecting you, I’ll help you through any problem you may have.

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There is no need to suffer. No need to continue feeling the heart ache and pain you live with while combating loneliness. There is help. We wouldn’t think twice about get the oil changed in our car because we know that it needs that in order to run properly.

So don’t think twice about calling someone who truly cares when you need someone to talk to about what ever is on your mind and in your heart.