Anyone who has raised children, and lived to tell about it, can attest to one simple fact that escapes just about every expert in child rearing or human personality fields. There are substantial differences between every one of us that make us unique. Mothers feel personality in the womb, by kicks and squirms if nothing else. If psychically attuned, they can provide rich detail as well.
During formative years we all experienced the battle between two child rearing philosophies that were incorporated in the birth of our nation. One tells of our basic nobility and fundamentally integrous nature, needing little if any molding or external control. The other says that if left to ourselves, our lives will be “nasty, brutish and short.” The tension between allowing children to find and express their individual, unique nature, vs the need to socialize and control to make them into good enough people to survive, can be found as the basis of just about every parenting philosophy, technique, and advise.