It started in January of this year with an article I wrote here called “The Secrets We Keep”.
Sort of as an after thought at the end of the article I put a link to my telephone advice service.
Normally, I get calls from great people who are having typical issues we all as people face. Things like panic attacks, problems with stress at home or work and/or having relationship troubles. Normal people with normal life challanges who just need someone to talk with about them. That was the concept of the project from the beginning.
However, I never dreamed what would begin to happen once I posted that article about secrets on Jan 8th of this year. People began calling me to reveal their deepest, inner most secrets. Secrets they couldn’t tell anyone. Secrets that in some cases were killing them inside for more than 50 years as was the case with one caller. When this person was 8 years old, they accidentally set fire to their home killing their baby brother. They never confessed. Today, in their late 60′s it still haunts them everyday.
I have been thinking a lot lately about the secrets we keep. Why do we keep secrets? Are we keeping them to protect ourselves? Or others we love? Are we afraid of being judged? Do we keep secrets out of fear? Are we afraid that by revealing our secrets that we will be rejected?
By pure definition: “Secrecy is the practice of hiding information from certain individuals or groups, perhaps while sharing it with other individuals. That which is kept hidden is known as the secret”.
However it’s much deeper then that. We all have secrets. We all keep them for different reasons. Secrecy is often controversial, depending on the content of the secret, the group or people keeping the secret, and the motivation for secrecy. There are government secrets, there are corporate and technology secrets. But the secrets I am speaking of are those that are deeply personal. The secrets we keep as individual people. The things we hide out of fear or shame or even sometimes out of true love.