Do You Need Life Advice?

Hello, I’m Steven Diamond and I really can help you.
I am honest, Open minded and very non-judgmental and can talk openly with you about any subject of concern. I can answer any and all questions regarding your LIFE and I am a specialist in dealing with guilt, anger and teaching you how to make your life and relationships work, getting you to the place you need to be for happiness to exist.

Handling New Manager Stress

The moment has come after years of hard work and dedication – entering the ranks of management. New managers face a host of challenges between business tasks and people issues. As a result, expectations of performance change, impacting the process of getting comfortable with the new role. The pressure of competing demands can break individuals who prized the concept of management but found the realities of the function quite different. There are a few ways to ease the burden of new manager stress.
Set Realistic Priorities

The tendency to over-commit can be a big problem. New managers are eager to show they are ready for added responsibilities and tend to accept all assignments given to them. Soon everything is a priority and the quality of work declines. The struggle to please upper management, and stay attentive to employee needs, blurs the process of proper planning. Tips to setting realistic priorities: 

1. Document mission critical goals. Start your planning around the most important top level goals. All sub goals will flow from there and drives individual employee goals. Establish time measures for tracking progress as appropriate (e.g. weekly versus monthly).

2. Build in flexibility. The tendency with setting goals is to get so specific and fixed that changes outside of your control wreaks havoc on an otherwise iron-clad plan. Understand that change is inevitable and the ability to adapt your goals to changing conditions is necessary. Flexibility in goal setting occurs through estimation. That means factoring in buffer space. If it takes two weeks to complete a task, estimate three weeks. If issues come up that impact this task you know that you can adjust quickly and still get the original task done.

Communicate and Delegate

One of the many mistakes new managers make is to micro-manage people and processes. This can result from lack of confidence, lack of trust or knowledge of team competencies, or individual control is the only way to feel comfortable handling business demands. Managers need to establish role clarity early on with employees to share the workload properly. Through team meetings and 1-1’s, a manager can communicate his or her role, how they can help, and what they expect from their team. Recognition is key – offer your team praise and thanks for their help and reward them for strong efforts when deadlines are met.

Finding the Safe Stress Zone at Work

When you, as a leader, see these responses it is to your advantage to help your employees gain an understanding of what is actually happening. Here are the four most common reactions in every organization dealing with the stress:

• FLOODING is the tendency to “blow up”, yell, and repeat a statement, getting louder with each breath. There is a need to “drown out” the real reason for the upset and the individual is often overwhelmed with anger, fear, hurt, or sadness. The adrenaline rush gives lots of energy and the flooding can go on for hours, even days.

• DEFLECTING is the tendency to block the movement of a conversation or situation, force a change in direction and prevent anything with conflict to come to be discussed. During times of high stress deflectors often become obsessive compulsive and love to just do busy work. If there is a tense discussion the deflector will make a joke, or point to a dirt spot and make a fuss.

• INDULGING is the tendency to devote oneself entirely to a specific situation and never come up for air. There is a deviant pleasure in “wallowing” and suffering without let up. There is complaining about the effort and exhaustion and yet a delight in holding others captive, being the martyr and “doing for them.”

Can You Build a Small Business While Working Fulltime?

Can You Build a Small Business While Working Fulltime? By Guest Blogger: Tony Deblauwe Are you pursuing greater financial freedom and personal independence by building a small business? Unless you have a lot of extra capital lying around, chances are you are also working fulltime to pay your bills. Is it possible to create your [...]

3 Most Important Things To Remember About A Man

I get so many calls from frustrated women asking me why they just can’t understand their man.

Well, it takes one to know one. Men are a special breed and do not always function at the high intellectual nature of women. So here are some the top three things to really keep in mind when you are trying to figure out what he’s thinking.

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Toxic Relationships, Sexual issues, Financial problems, Workplace issues, Divorce, Cheating, Separation, Love, Guilt, Anger, Stress, Anxiety…

I can bring you clarification in any area that is affecting you,I’ll coach you through any problem you may have. Let me help you reach your dreams, establish your goals, and rid what is blocking you from becoming a success.

Workplace Violence – Dealing With Coworker Altercations

By Guest Blogger: Tony Deblauwe

With the rash of workplace shootings in 2010, the awareness of workplace violence has been magnified for employers. Have you ever been a witness to workplace violence? About 1% percent of U.S. workers are assaulted each year by a coworker. Such peer-on-peer attacks can result in serious physical injury, an inability to return to work because of fear of further victimization, and other serious problems. A pattern of aggressive behavior including harassment, stalking, threats, and unwanted physical contact is a critical warning sign that an employee poses a danger to coworkers. Employers are wise to take the issue of coworker violence very seriously.
However, there is a grey area where you, as an employee, might not feel comfortable reporting an incident between coworkers – especially if you are friends with both parties. You might fear that the response from HR would be out of proportion to the offense if your employer has taken OSHA’s advice and established a zero tolerance policy.

Here are a couple of example scenarios:

Attitudes

Wikipedia says: “An attitude is a hypothetical construct that represents an individual’s degree of like or dislike for an item. Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event– this is often referred to as the attitude object. People can also be conflicted or ambivalent toward an object, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the item in question.”

While this is true, Wikipedia has left something out that I believe is so very important.

It’s the role your attitude plays in your own life and the direct effect it has on the quality of life you live each day. That’s what I want to discuss here. Lately, I have been having many conversations with callers who seem to be unaware of just how important a role your attitude plays in your life.

Attitude is everything.

Best Relationship Advice

When I was on the Jane Pauley Show, during a commercial break, Jane leaned over to me and said “That is so true! I need to remember that in my own life!”

You wanna know what it was that I said?

I said, when you are about to take your final breath on this earth, it won’t be the money, cars, homes or material things that you think about.

It will be the relationships in your life.

You’ll think about relationships because they are among the most important treasures in all of existence.

So learning to develop great relationship skills truly is one of the most important investments you can make in your life.

Great relationships directly translates into a happier, more meaningful life. It means more positive things will come your way. More real friends, and even more money will all come as a result of learning how to develop the right relationship skills.

Think about it.

Sin City Secrets Revealed

“They were fascinated with why people would call me and not a doctor or a therapist.” – Diamond says. “I think there is a growing mistrust in the world among the medical community and people are afraid to talk to someone who may document something that could in someway be used against them somehow in the future. My call system through AT&T is 100% anonymous and that has been the success of this program. People feel better by getting what burdens them off their chest and at the same time being in control of exactly who they are telling it to. They enjoy speaking with someone that is like them. Someone that really does care and has no way of contacting anyone they know. I have had so many people tell me how liberating this truly is. I think that’s why they call.”

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